How to Get Your Boyfriend Back

Step 1 – Understanding Why Your Relationship Ended:

If you want to get him back then you have to remove these two misconceptions from your life:

• Your boyfriend left you because you said certain things or did something he didn’t like.
• Your boyfriend didn’t break the relationship with you just because he finds someone prettier or sexier than you

In my career, many girls keep on mentioning either one of above issues to explain the reason for their breakup. It is very important to keep in mind that your relationship doesn’t come to an end just because you said certain words or did something that lead to breakup. If your relationship with your ex boyfriend was base on solid foundation then few words or actions can’t come over the long work you did before.
Similarly, your relationship also didn’t come to an end just because your ex boyfriends finds someone prettier or sexier than you. It is crucial to understand your ex boyfriend was attract with your seductive, selective and sexier appearance and he didn’t leave you just because he finds someone sexier or seductive than you. If he didn’t like you in the first look then he never pursuit you over the other opportunities he had.
Here is the valid reasons why your relationship comes to an end:

Reason 1 – You Gave Too Much For Too Little Efforts:

This is 100% correct!!! This is the most important information you will get it from me. Based on psychological research, when it comes to humans then they value those things that they work for it.
For example, a boy comes to you in a bar and offers you to buy a drink. What will be your response? Most probably you would not value his friendship that much because you didn’t work for it. You may though of saying ‘YES’ to him but very next moment after buying drink you wouldn’t be giving any attention to him. Why?  This is because you didn’t work for it.
This happens in relationship as well. If you give too much to your boyfriend for his too little efforts then he would be losing interest from the relationship. If this happens then don’t blame your ex-boyfriend. This is simply in human nature. Humans that give too much has low-esteem and in return they get less from their partner.
This doesn’t mean you have to become selfish or inwardly-oriented, you have to be mentally aware of the efforts your boyfriend is putting to see you and ensure he keeps on working for you.


The main thing to take from this is, people value those things higher they have to work for – and don’t value things that come to them too easily.

Reason 2 – Clinginess and Insecurity:

If you ask me then I would say clinginess and insecurity are two biggest unattractive behaviors that kill attraction from any relationship. It doesn’t matter how strong the relationship is, any sign of clinginess or insecurity can make any man called for quit.
If you are validation seeker to get good compliment from your boyfriend then make sure you never express this to him. Men see girls that are too needy as a ‘little sisters’ and no men in their right mind want to create relationship with ‘little sister’. Instead, they want to get into ‘big brother’ role to help them out.
Many women cope with everyday life stress by leaning to their boyfriend. Although it is fine on some occasions but doing it too much kills the relationship. This is because men are bad in understanding emotions. They don’t know how to cope with the emotion luggage they get from their girlfriend and then later they called it quit.

Reason 3 – Monotony Of Relationship:

In every relationship, there comes a time when man or women stop trying. When this happen the attraction from the relationship disappears and breakup occurs sooner or later.
The good thing is, you can surely avoid this death trap in your relationship. When you walked with your boyfriend in beginning he keeps you way from other guys and ready to fight with them. But, when he finds you are always with him then he loses the motivation to fight for you.
You as a female can avoid this from happening in your relationship by getting unpredictable to him. Always make him thinking, “Hmmm, I have to work hard on my game to keep her”. Trust me this kind of feeling work as a link to bond your relationship and keep any other women far away from your relationship.
Trust me; men crave for validation as much as women crave validation from her man. However, when monotony of relationship takes place then it kills this newly found validation from the relationship.
If you wish to avoid this Monotony of Relationship then you have to increase your value higher than the level you had before your previous relationship. You can surely increase your value with some actions that you will find later in this website but for now I want you to consider becoming the girl that you were before getting into your previous relationship.

Reason 4 – Being Overly Rigid and Tough:

No men ever attract to women who is overly rigid and tough. If you tries to take advantage of your men  then you only pushing him away from you. This kills all the attraction from the relationship and sooner your boyfriend will start finding someone else who he can protect.
Always keep in mind, an attractive women to a man is someone who knows how to balance being independent and shows his softer vulnerable so his boyfriend able to ‘protect’ her. Even if you don’t want to be protected by anyone then still you have to show some vulnerability to awaken your man’s natural protection ability. A man who protects you is a man who is deeply connected with you in a relationship.
Step 1 – Conclusion (Things That Changed):
In this entire step, you learn fours reasons that are mainly responsible for the breakup. Understanding these reasons are very important for learning about how to get him back. Additionally we have defined strategies in each section that can be use to combat these faults.
The exercise for you is to think about and compare yourself with the one you were before the relationship and the person you are now. What things have changed in this period? Think back and find the reasons that attract your boyfriend and specific reasons that pushed your boyfriend away from you.
Most women always keep on thinking that they have said something or did something that leads to breakup but the truth is certain words or actions rarely contributes in full blown breakup.
Instead of words or actions, there are some traits that you developed with time that creates a full blown breakup. Inside Michael Fiore’s program you will learn the key reason why your ex boyfriend leave you and not coming again. I recommend you to download this Text Your Ex Back.

Thankfully we have certain strategies, methods and techniques that can help you to win your ex back.
Let get started…

Step 2 – Ending The Contact:

If you are searching for how to get your ex boyfriend back then you need to prepare yourself for some difficult time ahead. This is because if you want to raise your value in the eyes of your boyfriend then you have to end the contact with your boyfriend at all cost.
It may be sound terrible to you but there is no way to say it in soft words so I can say it loud to you. You have to end your contact with your ex boyfriend for full 21 days. There is no exception to this rule. It doesn’t matter how much you are missing him right now you have to end contacting your ex boyfriend if you want him to get back in your life. This rule is based on strong psychological mechanism and it is proven to work.
There is one caveat to his rule and it is only when your ex boyfriend contacts you. If he contacts you then this is big positive on your side. However, when we come to the matter on our hands now then there are three reasons for going no contact with your ex boyfriend:
Reason #1 – Avoid Getting Needy: One of the reason to go no contact with your ex is you avoid looking needy to your ex boyfriend. This will also stop you from labeling yourself as insecure. As we already discussed before, insecurity and clinginess are two biggest unattractive qualities that kills all attraction from the relationship.
Reason #2 – Creates Feeling of Loss: Another reason to use no contact is, it helps in developing the feelings of loss in your ex boyfriend’s mind. Your boyfriend will start thinking why she is not calling me. He will start getting second-guessing to his decision of breaking up with you. Once he starts getting these second-guessing thoughts it will be great helpful for you.
Reason #3 – Increases Your Value: How many times you have heard people start giving value to things once they are gone. Similarly, your ex boyfriend will understand your value once he misses you. You have to reach that value and then your boyfriend will come to know how valuable you are in his life.
Reason #4 – Helps You Re-Discover Yourself: During 21 days of no contact with your ex boyfriend you can spend some time to re-discover yourself. You can read book to increase your knowledge or you can spend this time in understanding how to get your ex back.
The main objective of using no contact is it helps you to stop showing your feelings of neediness and insecurity.
After breakup you are most vulnerable to display insecurity and neediness to your boyfriend. Therefore, when your boyfriend around you it doesn’t matter how much harder you try you still send signals for neediness and insecurity.
This is completely normal and even if you don’t say verbally to your boyfriend but still your body language will send signals of neediness to your ex boyfriend. This will give the power of relationship to your ex boyfriend. However, to win him back in your life you need to get this power in your hand.

What To Do When No Contact Is Not Possible?

There are some situations when No Contact is not possible like you both are living together or have a child or work together in the same office. In this situation, you have to remember that the key to renew interest and attraction is to become a person with higher value.
When you are forced to talk with your ex boyfriend on daily bases then you have to adjust your behavior and don’t try to look jealous or needy.
If you both live in the same house then make sure to go out and spend as much time as possible with your friends. However, don’t try to bring new person in your home. This is the worst situation to get into where you and your ex boyfriend both try to ‘one up’ by bringing new people in the house.
You have to make sure your ex boyfriend to start contact with you – but keep a balance. It is important to don’t avoid or ignore your ex boyfriend as these are ill feelings. Always try to look cheerful as you came out of breakup and enjoying your life. Allow your ex boyfriend to leave the conversation and let him do most of the work while conversing with you. Think about living with a female roommate.
Another way you can become person of higher value is by dressing good without look like you are trying. When you go out then try to dress a little bit more but don’t try hard about it. Nothing is as much lower value as dressing yourself to make your ex boyfriend jealous.
Inside Text Your Ex Back, Michael Fiore showed lots of different things you can do to improve yourself in these days of no contact period.

Now the remaining part of this website will show you psychological and practical strategies for how to get your ex-boyfriend back that you can work with to remove the feelings of neediness and insecurity. It doesn’t matter how dreadful you are feeling inside you these strategies will surely reverse the feeling of rejection that your ex boyfriend wants you to feel. This will shift the balance of power back in your relationship.

Step #3 – Update Yourself

I know No Contact period is very painful for some girls especially for those who love their ex-boyfriend from the bottom of their heart. Many girls asked me what they can do during this No Contact period.
One of the best things you can do is to update yourself. Give up your bad habits, and if you are overweight, then it is time to hit the gym.
Many things you can do in this No Contact Period and some of them mentioned below:

Find A Hobby You Enjoy:

Write down one most important activity you always wanted to do before having a relationship with your ex-boyfriend. Jogging in the park, cycling for many hours alone, swimming in the sea or taking care of your garden are some of the hobbies that I recommend as they distract you and also keep you healthy.
If you love art and craft, you can start designing or creating something that distracts you from old memories of your breakup. You can also learn some defense techniques like martial arts or kickboxing.

Get Back To Work:

You have to understand that you can’t get your ex-boyfriend immediately that is why you have to start working as soon as possible. Having job will give you a great reason to go out of your house. It will also keep you busy, and ultimately you will give up your old bad habits if you have any.
Sitting among professional people will increase your morale, boost your confidence as well and more importantly enlighten your personal life.

Have A Change of Scenery:

One of the best things I always recommend to my clients is to improve the environment. A change in environment is the great way to mend a broken heart.
You should take an out-of-country or out-of-station vacation alone to enjoy the natural and distract yourself. Try enjoying some holidays with your family and friends that would be great as well.
A new place is like a breath of fresh air, and it will give you a much-needed break. It will help you to view your breakup from a different perspective.

Reconnect With Your Old Friends And Family:

Another thing you can try is reconnecting with your old friends and family members to avoid isolated environment. Instead of sitting lonely you have to surround yourself with positive and happy people.
When you catch up with your friends, there are thousands of other things to talk instead of your breakup. It will open up doors to meet new people and make new friends.

Become Best Buddy Of Your Body

Another sensible thing you can do in this No Contact Period is, become a knockout sensation. Make your ex-boyfriend senseless by becoming sexy, gorgeous and fascinating creature.
You can’t accomplish this task until and unless you got wholeness of body and mind. Half of the secret of becoming the best version of yourself is becoming the best buddy of your body.
One of the direct approaches to getting your ex-boyfriend back is to adopt a healthy lifestyle. Return to the life with passion and bring a spark in your personality. By using proper diet, exercise, sleep and healthy habits you can amaze everyone with your sexy and gorgeous looks. Make sure you avoid anxiety and depression as much as possible.
However, before you make your ex boyfriend gorge his eyes on how sexy and gorgeous you have become, you have to fit the floor with exercise, diet, and sleep.

Reshape Your Lifestyle:

There are also many other changes you can adopt to continue your winning form. Besides reshaping your life with fitness, you can make changes in your lifestyle to boost your self-confidence. All these things with break a set pattern and take you towards great transformation.
How much great change it can be? Does it have to be expensive? No… Look at some tips to improve your lifestyle.

Dressing Changes:

Step into the hub of fashion by checking out some latest fashion magazines especially for women like Vogue, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and others. You don’t have to spend your whole fortune to change your wardrobe completely.
You can wear lingerie under your formal, informal and casual clothing because you never know where your seduction will take you.

Hairstyle Changes:

By having a new haircut along with new hair color, ladies can dramatically improve their looks. Make sure you get a look that can make any man fall in love with you and make your ex boyfriend crawling back to you.
Start by trying out a new hairstyle and then try new hair color on small part of your hair. Make sure you try every hairstyle from sleek and straight to wavy and bouncy hair. Adopt hairstyle that you love.

Skin Treatment:

If you don’t get a good facial since a long time, then visit female saloon and get yourself one. If you have a skin problem, then book your appointment with a good dermatologist.
It is important to remove acne, pimples, blackheads and red spots from your skin. A clear, smooth skin gives you vibrant inner glow.

Dental Treatment:

Get prophylactic treatment to whiten your teeth and treat your cavities and bad breath.  You need to look clean and fresh every time you smile among your friends and family members.

Do These Changes Matter?

Your self-esteem will boost from all these self-confidence boosters. You have to create your new improved identity along with good sense of fashion trend. You should be comfortable in your clothes and even more comfortable in your skin.

Step #4 – Reconnect With Your Ex:

Now you have found out the reasons behind the breakup, and you get your ex boyfriend in talking terms with you again. You have set to win your relationship back and keep things rolling again.
However, you don’t need to be too much quick in getting your ex boyfriend back instead you need to clear obstacles from the path making easy for your ex boyfriend to come back in your life again. If you want your ex boyfriend back then, you need to provide the right amount of ‘heat’ to get things back on track.
We have provided some quick, easy, proven and effective ways that will help you to get back with your ex boyfriend – slowly, effectively and efficiently.

Remain Calm All The Time:

Remaining calm is one of the most important tools to remember when you are trying to get your ex boyfriend back. Your ex will get irritated, annoyed and completely turn off if you show any sign of desperateness.
Even after getting into the new relationship, if you show any sign of desperation it will ruin the balance in the relationship. Your partner will become aggressive, controlling and abusive when he/she finds out you are desperate and needy. You should show some maturity and avoid showing all your emotions.
If you want a good relationship with your ex boyfriend, you need to have some respect for you, but this doesn’t mean you need to become arrogant to create some pride for yourself. You need to patch up things with your ex boyfriend with a bit of pride and dignity. Treat yourself with as much as respect that you want from your ex.

Be Confident:

We already discussed how breakup negatively affects your confidence level that is why you should check how you are doing before contacting your ex boyfriend again.
If you want to have 100% chance of getting your ex back this time, then you need to be happier, confident, stronger and relaxed to make things work for you.
These qualities will impress your ex, and you are giving the impression that you are not desperate for another chance. You will become the entirely different girl that your ex boyfriend will surely like.

Plan A Light Activity For Your ‘FIXIT’ Date:

If you don’t focus on this section, then it is possible you can make one of the two mistakes while planning your ‘FIXIT’ date. It would be a crime if you take this date too seriously, but you don’t have to take it too lightly as well.
Don’t make your first ‘FIXIT’ date a therapy session by opening up all wounds of the previous breakup. Your ex wants to move on and forget about the past. But don’t move too fast. Your ex will not feel comfortable if you ask him/her for a movie date now.
The important thing is you need to find a balance here. Your first ‘FIXIT’ date need to fun enough to make your ex comfortable with you and light enough that your ex doesn’t feel awkward afterward. Keep your date short and sweet instead of talking about useless things.
Going for lunch or coffee date is a great idea to restart your relationship. Make sure you don’t spend too much time talking about things that don’t make sense. Keep enough distance to make your ex comfortable with you. Spend around thirty to sixty minutes in your first ‘FIXIT’ date.

Make The Phone Call:

Take the step first and make a call to your ex. Make sure you keep a positivity and confidence tone in your voice and please DON’T sound like a desperate guy.
One important thing – make a call to your ex instead of leaving a message. Call once or twice a day and if you don’t get a response then don’t give up. Make sure you keep your voice smooth and gentle when asking for a coffee/lunch.
If you aren’t able to talk with your ex, then wait for a week before contacting your ex again because you don’t want to irritate your ex boyfriend. Also, a week-long pause makes your ex curious about you, and it may be possible you will get a call from your ex in the meantime.

Choosing Clothes For The Date

Selecting right clothes for your ‘FIXIT’ date is probably seems to be a difficult task. You should select clothes that match the venue. However, don’t overdress if you are going for lunch at local restaurant.
The secret of looking good is to wear clothes that are simple and clean. Even a tidy shirt, with a good pair of jeans and sneakers, will make you look good if you know how to present yourself.  You will look lot clean and catchy to your ex eyes even if your ex see it all before.
Keep yourself calm in your date and don’t squeeze your brain for clothes to wear instead think about topics to discuss with your ex.

Making The Most Out Of Your Date:

You have to make a plan on how you want to spend time with your ex boyfriend in your date. You spend a good amount of time with your ex boyfriend, and you know his likes, dislikes and everything in between.
However, some things that you should not do on your date:

• Be Desperate – Don’t give any sign to your ex that you are desperate to have him in your life
• Be Seductive – Keep your date light and most importantly don’t try to be sexy
• Don’t place the blame – Breakup was the part of your life in past, and it is good to don’t bring it in your new future with your ex boyfriend
• Making Jealous – Keep your past aside if you want to get your ex boyfriend back then don’t make your ex boyfriend jealous with your lifestyle, new boyfriends, etc

You should avoid talking about the breakup with your ex boyfriend on your first date. However, if he is bringing it up then interact as you see fit but NEVER BE DEFENSIVE!
If you want your relationship to get back on track, then you need to be humble and accepting what happened. You can’t get your ex boyfriend back by pointing fingers at him. You have to be humble throughout the whole discussion as this is the best approach to tackle this situation, and it will make your ex comfortable with you which will mend broken hearts.

Ending The Date:

Make sure to keep your ‘FIXIT’ date as short as possible to end your date on a high note. There is no specific amount of time you need to spend with your ex but keeping your date in between 30 to 60 minutes is idle.
If you both spend too much time together, then you will run out things to do together, and boredom takes place on your date. I know you never want this to happen especially in your first ‘FIXIT’ date.
If ‘FIXIT’ date is short, you both leave wanting more from each other. It is necessary to wrap up your date with lines similar to this one:
“I had a great time with you. I hope we will do it next time as well.” *followed by big charming smile*
After your first ‘FIXIT’ date it is good to wait for a week or two before making new plans for next date. One thing more, it is good to give trial offers to your ex for next date instead of forcing him.
If you want to learn a perfect way to end your relationship then read Brad’s The Ex Factor Guide.

Final Few Words For Getting Ex Boyfriend Back:

The language of love once learned by heart is never forgotten. Love is an unspoken language that heart understands regardless of caste, race, and religion. Love can bring individuals and nations together. Love makes people happy and empowers us human beings.
If your relationship has LOVE, then it can bring you both together doesn’t matter how many times you fought together and how many arguments you both had on silly things. Love is simply a gift of blessing.
Love can’t explain with reasons and logics. Love is magic, and if you believe in magic, love is always alive. As long as love is present, everything is possible.
It doesn’t matter how nasty your breakup was. It is always possible for your ex to forget about the past and create a new relationship with you. But make sure you don’t remind your ex of the reasons why you broke up in the past.
Keep in mind, once you get a chance to get back together with your ex boyfriend, you have already learned how to get your ex back and let go all bitter feelings you suffered in the past. Never lose hope to get the one you love most, even if your ex is in a relationship with someone else, just hand on! But, this doesn’t mean you have to disappear from your ex’s life completely.
Running away from your ex doesn’t help you in future as well. The more pressure you exert in forgetting your ex, the more your mind will remind you of him. Don’t ‘delete’ your ex boyfriend from your life. Love is not about running away. Instead, it is about being brave enough to go through ups and downs.
If you want to see your ex boyfriend coming back in your life, then you need to find your strength and learn how to get your ex boyfriend back. You have to keep a balance in continuously caring your ex and knowing when it is too much. Love is what that keeps us alive and happy.